Remarriage Concerns

Remarriage can be a thrilling and also an anxiety-provoking situation. A person who chooses to marry after a failed relationship or due to unfortunate loss of spouse may go through a range of emotions concerning the marriage.

There could be anticipation, excitement, thrill, hope and promise of leading a stable and warm family life, and security and assurance arising out of the marriage. On the flip side there could be concerns, confusion or self-doubt about pulling off the relationship.

In case where an earlier marriage was annulled due to marital conflicts, lack of adjustment, unhappy married life, experience of abuse or trauma, or incompatibility with the partner, there may doubts and fear that the person may have to go through these experiences again.

The person remarrying may go through a phase where he/she may introspect and get into the web of negative thoughts like will he/she make a good spouse, will the relationship work, are they capable of forming a trusting and intimate relationship, will the relationship last or have the same fate as the earlier relationship and so on. This can cloud the thinking and mar the enthusiasm and positive feelings about marriage.

It may be useful to indulge in a little bit of introspection and learn from the past relationship. The experience of the marriage may help you to see things differently now and help you to deal with future difficult situations with more ease and maturity.

Do not carry the baggage of your past relationship with you. Failure of earlier relationship does not mean the fault was entirely yours or that you cannot handle a relationship well. Do not doubt yourself and question your ability to be a good partner due to the past experience.

Do not feel insecure about your remarriage and be anxious about the future of the relationship. Live in the present and focus on making it happy and loving rather than fearing what might happen and what all can go wrong.