Quick fixes in an argument-prone relationship

Arguments arise and subside in any relationship. When there is too much of love or too less of it, arguments are bound to happen. An argument is nothing but a discussion over something that one feels right, in a provocative or warring fashion.

Arguments can be productive or counter-productive. Arguments are productive when there is a lot of give and take in a relationship. Arguments are counter-productive when the relationship is not properly balanced and is always tilted in only one direction.

Why do arguments happen?

- Arguments happen when there is a personality mismatch between the couples that is much needed to maintain a consistency in a relationship. When personalities differ, then even opinions, viewpoints, perspectives, outlook, and attitude differs. This difference will widen with more and more arguments.

- Arguments happen when as mentioned earlier there is too much love or too less of it. When there is too much love, there are bound to be problems of possessiveness. There can also be issues with trust.

- When there is too less of love in a relationship, arguments happen over the quality of the relationship, which is devoid of any mutual understanding.

- Arguments can also happen when the family is expanding with children or when there are too many personal and professional commitments.

- There is always a spar of opinions in any relationship, but the key to success is to understand what is right and what is wrong. Discretion is the savior.

How to get out of arguments

- Listen attentively. Let the other person finish his or her version of the opinion, and then proceed to voice yours. Always give a patient hearing to the other person. Don’t interrupt or intercede. Never rubbish a statement in an argument. All this will lead the other person to think…ok yes..I am arguing with a sensible person.

- Try to anatomize an issue that has been argued over, rather using the issue to argue. Kill the problem before it kills you. Look at the problem subjectively, and understand how it needs to be tackled. Take out a pen and paper, and do a tangible study of the problem. It may look trivial, but it is more than tens of tons times effective than you think.