Pre Wedding Stress

A wedding is always a momentous occasion. It augurs in a new life of novel happiness and excitement. Going-to-be married couples are always hard-pressed to make their marriage a memorable event in their lives. But it is not always easy, because most of the couples are working, and they have to chart time out to get things done.

Some weddings are simple, some are eloquent, and some are reasonable. Some people want their weddings to be done in their style; some just go through the conventions. At the end of the day, it is all about perspective, and individuality.

So what ails the to-married-couples most? Is it uncertainty or just the plain thought of organizing one’s mind before the actually organizing? Is it something to with money-management, or something to do with the relationship itself?

There are a lot of questions swirling around. Whatever be the era, marriage is still considered the ‘big leap’, as long as man is a social animal.

Here are some points to discuss with your partner before getting married…

- Discuss the relationship

Forget about the event, discuss on the after-event – the married relationship itself. Get a clear picture from your partner on things like money-management, number of children to have, future career aspirations, what you might do when you get a million dollars, if you prefer dogs to kittens, if you like a country-side home or an urban nest and so on.

Be frank and forthright about your ratings in the bank or the state credit agency, reveal all your financial obligations…provide a clear anatomy of your financial standing… and ask the question again…I do, do you?

- Discuss family

Tell your partner about your parents, your brothers or sisters. Be articulate, but honest in relaying information about your family. Set your expectations as to how much time and money you would like to afford for them. Ask for your partners honest affirmation of acceptance… in this way, you are heading into a relationship that has pushed away a boulder of obscurity.

- Discuss the wedding

Discuss about how you would like your wedding to be, and how your partner would like the wedding to be. Provide a clear picture of your financial girth with regard to spending for the marriage. Plan the wedding, preferably with a wedding planner – get a grip of things, and get a grip over pre wedding stress.