How to Deal with Family Tension
Family members can get embroiled into various kinds of disputes leading to quarrels, bitter feelings, blaming, deterioration of the relationship, feeling frustrated, disappointed, sour, angry, hatred, worried, anxious about how to handle the differences and restore some level of normalcy to the relationship. The strain and tension can play havoc, take away peace of mind and make you feel agitated and restless until the matter in resolved satisfactorily.
In your desperation to make things right, do not push matters. Where relationships are concerned, time does play an important role. Do not press matters if it is being opposed by certain members. Let time pass and see how things turn out to be later on. Sometimes the solutions come when we do not expect, and sometimes not doing anything is the best way to solve a problem. Doing something may just compound the problem even further.
Do not dwell on your differences and conflicts. Let the differences be in their places, but you may try to have a civil relationship by suspending your differences for a while and act like things are normal (even though it may not be). By doing so you may atleast be able to keep a channel of communication open rather than sealing all possibility of communication and reconciliation.
Your anger, disappointment, frustration may be very reasonable and justifiable under the circumstances, however, try as much to not speak or act when you are in this state of mind. Anger disrupts the ability of objective thinking. Talking becomes a channel of deteriorating things rather than resolving it. Excuse yourself or say that you need time to think over rather than spewing bitter words and blames.
Sometimes you just may not be able to see a solution or way to end the problem. That is fine. Let it hang on for sometime, rather than pressing for a solution that does not seem reasonable and fair. Settling disputes in a hurried way can be a short term solution however it may erupt again in the long term causing even more distress and frustration.