How to Deal with a Nagging Wife

A nagging wife is something that many men find difficult to handle. A lot of unwanted turbulences are created in a happy marriage relationship due to unprovoked or provoked nagging by the wife. Nagging is nothing but constant complaining or faultfinding by the wife of her husband.

A nagging wife is seen as a thorn in the man’s flesh. Constant complaining can make the husband timid and meek. It drains the man of the much-needed confidence to carry on the relationship.

Nagged husbands are ragged husbands. They are subject to their wife’s constant bickering over the man’s imperfections…. which may be most of the times trivial in nature.

So why does a wife nag…here are some answers…

- A wife may nag because of an innate characteristic of self-expression. It might not necessarily be because of any inadequacies in the husband, but because the wife has a behavioral issue of seeking refuge or solace or self-expression through nagging.

- A wife may also nag because she has come into the marriage with a lot of expectations and the husband is not able to fulfill those. When expectations brim over, complaining is commonplace.

- Nagging is also an attempt to rectify inadequacies of imperfections in the husband. It can also be due to over-affection that results in wanting the spouse to be a perfect ten in everything.

- A relationship is often plagued by uncertainty, trust issues, and fidelity issues…all this can create a discord in a relationship. Thus, nagging may be a medium of hitting back passively or non-aggressively at the spouse.

So how to deal with a nagging wife?

- Talk it over

This sounds simple, but you have got to get your wife know how you feel of her nagging ways, and how it hurts you. Have a frank and straight discussion, and see how both of you can take it forward.

Ask her what she thinks of her nagging, and if she is doing without knowing it. Making her know will half solve the problem; because sometimes many of them ‘don’t know’ they are doing it.

- Take corrective action

If you are being nagged at due to certain things that you are well aware off, then you got to pull up your sleeves, and get it in place. If you are an alcoholic, and have a problem with a nagging wife, then the answer is simple – start drinking moderately!

If you are earning less that is not enough to support your family, tell your wife, that you are earning less, and how you can go about it if possible. Sometimes opening up will close down many issues.