How not to be Threatened by a Mother Son Bonding

A mother son bond is always special. It is one of the most inexplicable relationships, where the bonding level is seldom replicated in any other parent child relationship…like a father to son, father to daughter, or a mother to daughter.

The dynamics of a mother son bond constantly changes with time. Most sons see their mothers as an epitome of unconditional love. They know that their mothers will love them no matter what, where, how, and who they are. This is something that they feel is an empowered feeling that cannot be got from any other human being in the world.

We hear constantly of nuclear families falling apart, because the daughter-in-law was not getting along with the mother in law. This is a very common phenomenon.

So why is there a friction between a daughter in law and mother in law..

- There is always a tug of war between the son’s mother and wife for the affection of the man

- The mother in law most often than not cannot handle the loss of ownership of her son…which she always prided herself on…and the wife will not tolerate the mother dictating terms on the relationship.

- Most women don’t want to marry a man who only listens to his mother. This they feel will affect the quality of their relationship with their men in the long run.

- Most women must understand that a son-mother bonding is on most occasions strong. There are also innumerable instances when the son has swayed to the side of his wife and bequeathed his mother.

So how can a wife accept the bonding that her husband shares with his mother?

Understand men

Most men love their mothers more than anyone. As they grow older, they value their mother’s opinion, and are willing to listen to whatever they say. This is because men are tuned to surrendering to someone who loves and cares for them unconditionally, because when they go out into the world, they encounter so many people, who may hate them, manipulate them, abhor them, or even like them. They also realize that there is no unconditional love that’s easy to find, and this is what they value the most.

Understand the difference in affections

Don’t try to force a man’s affection away from his mother towards yourself. You have to understand the nature and manner of the affection. Your husband’s affection towards his mother is no basis for comparison of his love towards you. He loves his mother more on a son-mother front, but he loves you more on a romantic-sexual front….so where’s the similarity??