Has Your Partner Left You Just Before Marriage?
August 19, 2009
This is a nightmarish scenario. The partner you shared your dreams and wishes with, planned your life with, discussed your aspirations with, spoke about your personal intimate feelings, calls up a few days/months before marriage and says the marriage is cancelled, I am backing out.
This act provokes hurt, pain, anger, shock, disgust, and you may feel stoned till you actually realize what has happened. The feelings a woman may experience due to this deceit of the man, due to the broken promise, may shake her world. It may seem unreal, like a nightmare, a joke, a dream that will end when she opens her eyes.
There may be feelings of shame, confusion as to what went wrong, strong desire to make things all right and get going again, wanting to know the reason why such treatment was meted out to her, was it her fault, is there anything she can do to restore the relationship etc. The woman, in her state of vulnerability may go out of her way to set things right.
You deserve an explanation as to why your partner called it off. Gauge his responses, check out the truth in what he is saying, the unfair, unreasonable allegations or blames assigned to you, confusion in his mind, greed for money and so on. If he says that he does not want to go forward even after your discussion/confrontation, do no try to persuade him.
You may feel very desolate and depressed, acutely angry, exploited, abused by him. Right at that point life may seem very unfair. However, just take it like that for the time being. Wait till your life takes another course. If you can, believe that you do not get one thing, because you are about to get something better.
Changing your attitude and fine-tuning it to the current reality may help you. Think that you have been saved from this person, the person did not deserve you. You deserve someone more stable and sensible.
Do not lose interest in your life. Please do not blame yourself. Do not decide that you will never be in relationship again. Think that you have been freed and released from a person who never was good for you.
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