Handling Rejection

Rejection of a proposal made to a person, you express a romantic interest in, can be very hurting, painful and traumatic. It does a lot of damage to your self image and your feelings. A girl or boy could be equally hurt by a rejection.

It can lead to a change of perception about people, hatred towards opposite sex, grudge and disappointment, anger with self, loss of hope, negative attitude towards love and an overall pessimistic attitude.

Firstly understand that rejection is not aimed at you as a person. The person is not rejecting you but the possibility of a romantic relationship that you both could share. Do not take it to be a rejection of ‘you’; it is the rejection towards a particular relationship.

Rejection does not mean that you are unworthy of being in a relationship, that you do not have what it takes to be in a relationship, you are not attractive enough and so on. Do not fill up your mind with negative thoughts about yourself.

Do not develop a poor self image, do not feel insecure about the rejection, do not lose your self value and esteem because you were once rejected.

As much as the issue is emotional, it needs practical thinking too.  You need to tell yourself that this was possibly not the best person you could be in a relationship with. The more you meet people, you will be able to understand which kind of person you would like to have a romantic involvement with.

Do not underestimate your potential to impress people or make them like you because of a past rejection.

Be more careful while assessing people. Be aware of how they feel about you, decide to make a proposal and time it well.

A past rejection may just help you to meet a better partner in future and have a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.