Handling a Flirting Neighbour

A flirting neighbour can be a menace to deal with. The close proximity of the neighbour can be threatening and alarming. The fact that you are neighbours may also make it difficult for you to confront the person publicly, as there are chances that others may come to know of it.

The situation may become worse if the neighbour makes advances to you and tries to get hold of you at times when you are alone. The presence of the neighbour nearby can act as a severe distraction and can cause tension, anxiety and worry.

If the neighbour is harmless and just looks at you in a particular way or tries to get your attention, it may not be a cause for alarm. You may avoid him completely. Treat him with cool indifference. Do not show him that you are bothered with what he does. Treat him like a non-entity.

However, if he makes gestures towards you or makes a conversation that is indecent, you may strictly state that you find his behaviour unreasonable and disgusting. Tell him to stop at once.

If the person tries to get you alone and lay his hands on you, it is a reason enough to take up the matter more seriously. Never let the person into your home when no one is present. Always use the peephole to check if he is on the door.

If the person is repeatedly troubling you in this way, confide in your parents about it. Do not hold back this information from them thinking that your parents and neighbours get along well. Letting the adults know will help you to secure yourself.

Let your parents take up the matter with the boy’s parents. Tell them honestly about the trouble the boy has been creating for you. If his parents act indifferently to it or get defensive, you may make a formal complaint with the housing society, so that other members can pressurize the neighbour to conduct himself respectfully.