Do You Feel Tongue Tied During Social Interaction?
August 28, 2009
Not being able to participate and interact freely during social interaction can cause you a lot of embarrassment, anxiety, create a feeling of helpless, doubt about your ability to pull off the social event gracefully, and may create panic about going for parties though you may like to attend social events, parties and celebrate.
Due to the fear that you may not be able to strike a chord with people, make interesting or meaningful conversation, fear that you make appear rude because you do not talk, or risk of being disliked by people, feeling that people may find you dull and boring as you do not communicate well, may play on your mind, causing stress and mental exhaustion.
The kind of company and nature of people attending the event can sometimes create panic. For example, if higher ups, important officials, people in higher echelons, class are attending the event, you may be overwhelmed by their aura and personality and may find it difficult to communicate with them for fear of sounding foolish, or being judged poorly by them.
Also in situations where you are meeting people for the first time, striking conversation can be difficult, as you do not know their interests and inclinations. So you may not want to risk talking about things that they may find dull and drab. You may just exchange pleasantries and may not find anything else to talk about.
Being an outsider can also provoke similar feelings. For example, if you are accompanying your husband to an office party you may find it difficult to mingle with people as you may not follow what they are exactly talking about, may not be well acquainted with the kind of operations the organization is into, you feel out of place and left out from the mainstream conversational topics.
Another aspect may be that you are habitually a shy and reserved person and like to form a few close relationships. You may be very particular about your views, forthright and intellectually strong, but you may feel that the people around are not tuned to that way of thinking. You may feel foolish making small talk and may prefer to be silent and get over with the event.
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