Dependencies in Relationships

Dependencies are psychological by nature. Dependencies are mental, emotional, conscientiousness dependency, financial, physical, sexual, societal and so on.Dependencies define how a relationship is structured around two people. The two people might not be aware that his kind of a thread binds them, because they do not want to breakdown and analyze relationships like laboratory tests.

What are the dependencies?
Here is a description on some of the dependencies in relationships…

Emotional dependency
Emotional dependency is when a person or persons are dependent on each other to suffice each others emotional needs. They will confide in each other. They are at home with each other. All their emotional goals are aligned along with them. For example, a person might be aiming to work hard and make money so that his/her kids are happy. The kids happiness will give this person happiness. So this is emotional dependency.

Intimacy dependency
Intimacy dependency is also called sexual dependency. This kind of dependency in a relationship is characterized by the wanting of the two persons in the relationship for intimacy and sexual gratification.

Financial dependency
This is a dependency in a relationship that shows itself much more than any other dependencies in the relationship. Financial strength often defines a relationships lifecycle. It also creates a dependency wherein a person or persons in the relationship look up to the other for financial solidarity or support.

Societal dependency
Societal dependency happens when either of the two people in a relationship needs the other for societal standing or authority or respect. This is in many way linked to financial dependency but not fully. You would see this kind of a dependency in film and sports stars who need their also-famous spouses to put up a face in the society.

How would you understand the kinds of dependencies you have in your relationship?

Look closely at your relationship and try to understand how many dependencies are there in your relationship.

Try to liberate your relationship of dependencies. Don’t let it lean on your relationship. Your relationship should be defined only on the mantle of solid understanding and trust.

If you feel there is a dependency in your relationship, then look to sideline it by addressing it, and reducing its need to intrude into the dynamics of your relationship.