Dealing With Your Ex-Boyfriend/Girlfriend

Determining the kind of relationship you will have with your ex-partner becomes necessary in some situations.  For example, if you work in the same office, live in the same locality, study in the same class etc.

There cannot be an adequate closure to a romantic relationship unless you decide what the status of the person or relationship will be.  You may choose to act as strangers and avoid each other, be indifferent, be hostile, be on talking terms, have very limited conversation (like just a ‘HI’ when you come across each other and so on).

By deciding your approach to the person, you will be able to handle your life in a better way.  However, if you are not sure how to behave when you come across each other, you may feel embarrassed, angry, odd, tensed or uncomfortable.

If both of you live in close proximity, then it may be better to be on talking terms, but have a limited conversation.  Just say a ‘Hi or ‘Bye’, ‘how are you’, or just smile and move on.  This will create less stress and pressure when you come face to face.  Showing your hostility, anger towards each other everytime you come face to face may be painful to yourself.

If you can manage, pretend like nothing happened.  Do not get disturbed by the presence of the ex-partner.  Do not try to avoid each other too.  Establishing an atmosphere of normalcy will help both of you to be composed and calm in each other’s presence.

Be careful and on guard, if you decide to become best of friends.  The decision may be mutual, however, the feelings may not have changed.  Your feelings of romance may still lurk under the tag of friendship.  This can cause you to patch up hastily and again begin the relationship.  This can lead to complications later on.

Be away or limit your interaction for some days or months.  When the intensity of your feelings of hurt or anger have reduced, you may want to make light conversation or choose to be away from each other’s way.