Dealing with Break Off

End of a loving relationship can be very emotionally distressing and traumatic experience.  Feelings of guilt, shame, anger, disappointment, hurt, sense of failure, loss of self-esteem and confidence may be the repercussions of a break off.  It may also cause depression and self-harming tendencies.

Taking care of your emotional state is very important in such circumstances, more so if the end of relationship has not been by mutual consent and handled in a mature manner.

You need time to get healed due to the negative experience of the relationship.  Self-introspection and spending time with self will be beneficial in coming to terms with the incident and accepting it.

Do not have a knee jerk response and try to snap out of it immediately.  It may create negative attitude towards relationships in future or may lead to emotional outburst at a later stage.  Do not suppress your feelings of hurt.

Try to come to terms with it yourself or by talking about it a person who understands your emotional state and requirements.  Talking can help you to unburden your pent up feelings and release your stress.

If you cannot handle the situation and feel worthless, used, and get self-harming ideas, do not hesitate to consult a counselor or psychologist.  Their professional expertise and understanding will help you to cope better.

Avoid isolating yourself and breaking all contacts.  Do not withdraw into yourself and lock yourself into your room or house.  Social interaction will in fact help you to break the chain of thoughts of break up and divert your mind.

Taking a break from routine, monotonous life can be helpful.  You may plan a short trip and get away from familiar surroundings and people for few days.  However, do not get away alone.  Tag along with people who can look after you.

Divert your mind towards new exciting activities like sports, music, movies etc.