Conflicts in Relationships

Partners in a relationship may go through rough patches; there could be several differences of opinion, disagreements, points of conflict and contention between them that may make the relationship unsustainable in the future.

One of the major reasons could be difference of opinion. Differences are there in every relationship; however what matters in how well the couples negotiate, how strong are their intentions to resolve their disputes amicably and what is the kind of compromise/adjustments that each one of them is ready to make so that the relationship is not jeopardized.

Initially, couples are in a stage of enthusiasm, thrill, euphoria as the relationship may mean the world to them; they may not be able to think of a life without the partner, may feel that they will do any number of adjustments for surviving in the relationship and so on.

However, as time passes and they are confronted with the real nature of each other, their initial resolve may weaken and cracks may appear in the relationship. They may feel the partner is too demanding, not compromising, doesn’t understand, is not matured enough, doesn’t take efforts and initiative in the relationship, that they are taking each other for granted and so on. After a point the grudge and grievances with each other becomes so strong that they may feel choked and stuck in the relationship and it may end with a break off.

Possessiveness and insecurity are reasons why a relationship may be negatively affected. Couples initially devote their full time and attention to each other. However with passage of time their social circle widens and they may want to have a good social life comprising friends too.

This could make one of the partners wary, and doubts and suspicions may crop up. They may feel that the partner is not satisfied in the relationship, puts friends first, is too friendly with the opposite sex and so on. This feeling of insecurity and possessiveness may create several misunderstandings and unnecessary fights among couples.

Breaking confidentiality is another potential hurdle in a relationship. If one of the partner discusses the relationship with a friend or a friend of the opposite sex, if they share the complaints or dissatisfaction with others, the partner may feel deeply hurt that intimate matters were shared with others and therefore a conflict may erupt.