Are You Spoiling Your Child?

Most households now a days have working couples. Many parents have feelings of guilt, helplessness at not being able to devote enough time to kids. The reaction to this guilt is lavishing children with the choicest of things they ask for.

Parents give in to the demands of kids under the burden that they are not able to give kids time, at least they should fulfill the demands of the kids. Most parents bring in food like burgers, pizzas, pastries, fast food, oily snacks, noodles, soft drinks etc for children on their way back home.

It is fun to have a change of food once in a while, but daily indulgence will create a habit and the child may turn aggressive if you stop this practice or may turn averse to home made food.

Another principle that parents seem to follow is that children should have all the comforts, and no shortage for anything in life. Giving a personal room to children, getting a personal television set, latest kinds of shoes and clothes, fashion accessories, installing air conditioners in their room etc are considered to be default goods for children.

Parents do feel that children should not go through hardships, and they earn and work hard for children. If they do not spend on them, what is the point of earning? However, children cannot be spoon-fed and indulged into a kind of lifestyle that you are providing them. Children may take all these for granted without realizing the kind of effort and work that goes into it.

Don’t try to always act as a cushion for children. Do not be very obsessed with their comfort and security. You cannot shield them always.

Unless children learn and experience difficulties they cannot develop their immunity and coping skills. In trying to always shield them, you may be actually weakening them. This is not to mean that you should let children go through extremely dangerous situations, but allowing them to test rough waters is essential.